For Couples Only Box Set by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn

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I received this for review through Waterbrook Multnomah.

Summary: Since their debut, these revolutionary guides have sold well over a million copies, been translated into fifteen languages, and sparked much fascinating water-cooler conversation around the country. Now together in the For Couples Only boxed set, these books provide the perfect resource to help you understand what you never knew about the woman or man in your life.
Each volume is based on input from more than a thousand members of the opposite sex—including an unprecedented nationwide survey and hundreds of personal interviews. This innovative approach yields candid and surprising answers about everything you don’t “get” about your significant other—even what that person deeply wishes you knew. It also produces simple but groundbreaking awareness of how you can best love and support the one who is most important to you.
So whether you are newly dating or have been married fifty years, get ready to know each other in a whole new way. The adventure is just beginning!

I reviewed For Parents Only by Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa A. Rice in 2007. When I read then that Shaunti was also the author of For Women Only, I was interested in reading it. So when I was offered a chance to review the For Couples Only set, I was interested!

The set comes in a little box (hence box set,) which contains the two books, For Women Only and For Men Only, both by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn. There is also a free couple’s conversation starter which is a little paper booklet with 12 ideas for working with the books, from reminders that your significant other(S.O) probably don’t know what we think he/she does to ideas for how to read the books, such as reading your own gender first and highlighting what you really want your S.O. to know.

I would have loved my husband to read the For Men Only book and better understand women but alas, he rarely reads and this is something he would never read. However when I read it, I did highlight some parts and I’m going to try to get him to either read those parts or let me explain them. I’ve casually mentioned a few of them already during serious conversations.

I read For Women Only first, curious about men. I’ve read books on gender before so I already knew a few of them but I did learn some new things. During a recent serious conversation with my husband I brought up one of the things I’d learned and he was surprised to hear me say that I knew it! Although my husband was surprised, it turns out that men and women are confused about each other because we all assume the only difference between men and women is our parts. This is not true.

Here’s what you’ll learn about men in For Women Only:

Why Your Respect Means More to Him than Even Your Affection, Why Your Mr. Smooth looks so Impressive but Feels like an Impostor, How his Need to Provide Weights Your Man Down and Why he Likes it That Way, Why Sex unlocks a Man’s Emotions, Why it’s So Natural for Him to Look (at other women) and So Hard to Forget What He’s Seen, Why the Reluctant Clod You Know Really Does Want Romance, Why What’s on the Outside Matters to Him on the Inside and What Your Man Most Wishes You Knew About Him. (nope I’m not telling!)

Here’s what you’ll learn about women in For Men Only:

Why her “I Do” will always mean, “Do You?” and what to do about it, What you should know about the fabulous female brain, How your provider/protector instinct can leave her feeling more unsafe and less cared for, Why her feeling about the problem is the problem, and how to fix your urge to fix, How her desires are impacted by her unique wiring, and why your ego shouldn’t be, What the little girl inside your woman is dying to hear from you – and how to guard your answer well and What the women who loves you most, most wants you to know.

What I read in For Men Only didn’t surprise me one bit, it’s very true of the majority of females. The information in the books was gleamed from surveys and interviews with thousands of women (and For Women Only info was gleamed from thousands of men,) and so the information provided is about the majority of women. The books even explains that not ALL women and men will agree with what is said but the majority will.

If you don’t already know, For Parents Only is a Christian nonfiction box set. I’m not Christian but I still found the books useful. There was one chapter in both books that didn’t apply to me because of my personal beliefs but otherwise it was fine. I don’t want to get into a debate or anything but basically it’s the one about your men looking at other women and how they should try to not do it but also can’t help it. Personally, I have no problem with my guy looking at and ogling at other women just like I can look at other men. So if you feel the same way as me, you might not need that one chapter as much. Buy For Couples Only Box Set

Author Bio:
Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn hold graduate degrees from Harvard University and are popular national speakers, authors, and entrepreneurs. They are also active church members and the parents of two young children, and they enjoy every minute of living life at warp speed.